NEXT MEETING DATE
MEETINGS ARE NOW AVAILABLE TO ATTEND VIA SKYPE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE AN INVITE, PLEASE EMAIL CARA.
NEXT MEETING DATES:
GRIEF / LOSS SUPPORT - Wednesday, July 14th at 7pm in the Community Room at the Whiting Library in Chester, Vermont.
Facilitator: Cara Tyrrell - Email Me 117 Main St ~ Chester, VT 05143
PALS (Pregnancy or Parenting After Loss) : To make these meetings more accessible please contact Gretchen if you have a PALS related issue and she will organize a meeting in your area.
Facilitator: Gretchen Lunderville - Email Her
The Board of Directors next meeting is set for Wednesday, July 7th. If you have an agenda item please email cara.
Friday, July 2, 2010
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Sunday, June 13, 2010
To better meet the needs of families who want this support, Gretchen will respond to requests by meeting localized families in their region.
Gatherings will by request only. EMAIL GRETCHEN if you need pregnancy or parenting after loss support.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Thursday, April 22, 2010
2010 Memory Event Shirt - $5 Each
Action Steps You Can Take This Spring
Join us on International Babylost Mother's Day - Sunday May 2nd, at the Angel of Hope in Ruland, Vermont (corner of Deer Street and Woodstock Ave - Rt. 4). Bring a picnic lunch, any memorabilia you would like to share of your angel baby and please bring your living children. This is a time for celebration and memory.
Join us for the 2nd Annual Walk for Hope and Remembrance - Saturday, May 8th along the Toonerville Trail in Springfield, VT. Details and pre-registration information by clicking above.
Attend a support group. We meet again Wednesday, May 12th at the Whiting Library in Chester, Vermont.
Plant a tree in memory of your baby
Start a blog and connect with thousands of other hurting families who get the rollercoaster of emotions you are feeling. You can visit some existing blogs at http://www.babylossdirectory.blogspot.com/.
Email your emotions: Your 'purging' emails are always welcome. Whatever you are feeling in that moment just put it into the computer with a 'no need to reply - just venting' message in the subject line. (firstname.lastname@example.org)
Write a letter to your delivering doctor / hospital: Share with them what you appreciated about your experience, what you wish had happened, and what you'd like to see put into place for other families who live this tragedy. Even if you never send it, processing your experience in this way is powerful. Hospitals often like to hear your feedback and want to know they are meeting your needs during such a tragic time, so if you do choose to send it you will be making a difference.
Call if you need us: Our crisis line is now available. 802-738-3411
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
The personalization pin-ons for the 2010 Memory Walk came today. When I opened them I felt a rush of excitment that signaled for me the walk is only 4 weeks away!!!!!
A big thanks to Laurie Birmingham, our Vice President of the Board for suggesting these this year. They are gorgeous and will make the perfect addition to our event shirts.
If you are coming to the walk we will have markers there for personalizing but please bring any other additions you would like with you: small pictures or stickers might fit the best.
Looking very forward to May 8th!!! Pre-Registration forms are arriving daily. Be sure to get yours in soon, either by mail or attached to an email, to ensure your FREE water bottle!
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Gretchen tells her story and what brought her to Share Southern Vermont.
We talk about our new group PALS a bit.
And, of course about the upcoming Walk for Hope and Remembrance on May 8th!
PLEASE NOTE: OUR NEW WEBSITE IS WWW.SHARESV.ORG NOT THE SITE 90 LINK THAT YOU WILL SEE ON OUR SCREEN. IT IS STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION BUT FEEL FREE TO BROWSE IT'S BEGINNINGS!
Monday, March 22, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Sunday, February 7, 2010
In January we submitted a grant to the Vermont Women's Fund. If they allot us the funds (notification is in April) we will be able to make and distribute 50 Forever In Our Hearts Packages. Each box includes a set of memoralizing tools - including one of our hardwood, handmade memory boxes, to set the stage for healthy grieving from the onset.
In addition, the Board of Directors has just completed a presentation for the Vermont Country Store Community Partners Foundation. The 45 minutes powerpoint presentation highlighted all that SSV has accomplished in it's first year of service to the grieving communities of Southern Vermont. A heartfelt message was also delivered by a parent panel, driving home the purpose of Share to grieving families.
We asked for enough funds to train two more board members as grief counselors and meeting leaders. We also asked for community event sponsorships enabling us to offer the Walk for Hope and Remembrance and the Wave of Light candle lighting ceremony without any registration costs or fees. Both events are services to greiving families and those who support them.
THIS MONTH'S MEETING ARE:
- Grief / Loss: Wednesday, February 10th - 7pm in the Community Room of the Whiting Library in Chester, Vermont.
- PALS - Pregnancy and/or Parenting After Loss Support: Tuesday, February 16th, in the same location.
Please join us for which ever meeting(s) best suit your current needs. As always, contact us for additional information. See the top of the blog for email contact links.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Pregnancy after loss is scary, causing us to have thoughts and behaviors not like our typical selves.
Parenting after loss is often filled with anxiety and questions that seem unable to answer.
This group is to support both stages of your life.
If you need support please come. 7pm, in the community room of the Whiting Library - Chester, Vermont.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
If not, we will link to it here every two months for you to access. Each issue has a topic.
The January/February 2010 Sharing newsletter is now available online at http://www.nationalshare.org/Jan-Feb_2010_with_cover.pdf. The topic is Meeting Milestones and we hope you enjoy it.
The editors are always looking for sumbissions to match a future topic. If you experience fits the topic, feel free to send in your piece.
The topic for the March/April 2010 issue is Recurrent Loss. If you have experienced recurrent pregnancy losses, we invite you to share your experiences with other readers. We are looking for stories of how you coped, any answerers you received, and how you eventually felt hopeful for the future. The submission deadline for this issue is February 1. Please send your submissions to email@example.com.
Monday, January 4, 2010
This 'place' changes over time. Just as some parents weave in and out of meetings depending on how they are feeling that month, others reach a place where attending the support group becomes uncomfortable for a time. This typically happens when the couple becomes pregnant again, especially when the mother begins to show.
Although your grief for your angel baby is by no means diminished, it is now coupled with intense fear and anxiety about the baby you now carry. As one mother recently put it, 'censoring' which emotions and feelings are appropriate for support meetings when the couple across from you may be struggling to concieve is too hard.
We, the founding directors of SSV, have always known this day would come. Loss cripples us for a time, then - for most of us - leads us to a place where we have a desire to try again. And so, the new year leads us to a place of natural growth. We are adding a a PALS group to our support services. It stands for Pregnancy / Parenting After Loss Support. It is an additional service, because, sadly, new parents will always be joining us in our second-Wednedsay support meeting.
If you are currently pregnant with your Rainbow baby, actively trying, or are parenting your child after loss and find you have overwhelming emotions you would like to share with others going through the same thing we offer you to have a safe place to do so.
Gretchen Lunderville, mother to Noah - 9 years in heaven, and two living children has lovingly agreed to facilitate this group. The first meeting will be Tuesday, January 19th, 7pm in the Community Room of the Whiting Library in Chester, Vermont. If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to email her.
Please understand, you are welcome at both meetings. Just because your focus is on health, pregnancy, and delivering a healthy baby does not mean that you have 'finished' or even 'taken a break' from grieving the baby who left you. We only want you to feel like there is a forum to express your pregnancy and parenting related emotions without taking on any additional concern or guilt about others in the group.
Whatever you need...when you need it. If you need to come and share, please do.