NEXT MEETING DATE
MEETINGS ARE NOW AVAILABLE TO ATTEND VIA SKYPE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE AN INVITE, PLEASE EMAIL CARA.
NEXT MEETING DATES:
GRIEF / LOSS SUPPORT - Wednesday, July 14th at 7pm in the Community Room at the Whiting Library in Chester, Vermont.
Facilitator: Cara Tyrrell - Email Me 117 Main St ~ Chester, VT 05143
PALS (Pregnancy or Parenting After Loss) : To make these meetings more accessible please contact Gretchen if you have a PALS related issue and she will organize a meeting in your area.
Facilitator: Gretchen Lunderville - Email Her
The Board of Directors next meeting is set for Wednesday, July 7th. If you have an agenda item please email cara.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Saturday, January 24, 2009
And how I hope my words are lies. I pray that none of these boys and girls that make memory boxes in the woodshop class are ever touched by childloss. But, the statistics are against me - against them. Chances are, at least a few will utter the words, "Oh My! Now I know what that crazy lady and her husband were trying to do all those years ago."
And Tops...and More Tops...and Lots-O-Feet
And Stacks of Sides...
Edging, Edging, Edging
And what job is complete without a little helper, who was "very busy" taking tape off the I-don't-know-whats.
And then there is the glueing. He stresses the word for the sheer masses of glueing one must do to create the finished box. Although my dear husband will never read this, I must say - Thank you my sweet for supporting this mission in the way you know how - woodworking. Your talents are much appreciated.
Thanks for checking our production line out and - now - go see what everyone else is showing and telling.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Now, to get a few bodies in the room - in the state that I live in!
Seriously, I KNOW its coming. This vision is so clear and the need is so great.
Wednesday, I am going through two local towns and distributing the brochures and cards!
So - I bid you adeau until next week's show and tell...
Come on back for ...."The making of a Memory Box!"
In grief and love,
Friday, January 16, 2009
It held the buntings, a small lending library, my binder, Emma's scrapbook, the first memory box, pens, napkins, tissues, parent packets and CHOCOLATE!
We arrived at the gorgeous building that had been erected only two years ago. Wow - we really are so lucky that a meeting room was available. I thought as we walked in the front door at 6:30pm. (meeting started at seven)
Nice, huh? Well - it is NOT the building I had been calling.
This is the Health And Rehabilitation Center.
It is GREAT! It is perfect for us! It is where Scott had been waiting in the lobby for 20 minutes.
We rushed over as my prayers did a 180. "Please God, DON'T let anyone else come. Please! Please!" I mean, what could be worse than finding the courage to attend your first support meeting only to arrive at the wrong building and be re-directed across town?
And so, my prayers were answered! My meeting partner and I were the only two. It was a perfect first meeting. We got a great deal done. We began planning our Mother's Day memory walk. We drafted our brochure and cover letter for doctor's offices. And, the best part, we got to know each other even better, sharing more of our loss stories.
And within 48 hours... The flyers were done.
The business cards were done.
And we have begun distrubuting to local offices.
So - let's review:
1. Always be 5 minutes early. (just barely)
2. Always be well prepared, obsessevily prepared is better. (check)
3. Always bring chocolate when you bring tissues. (what do you think was in the plastic bag?)
4. Always admit your mistakes (I just did!)
5. And - (most importantly) - ALWAYS be able to laugh at yourself (I still am, are you?)
I leave you with this:
If you are from the blogosphere - thanks for reading and laughing with me.
If you live locally and plan on attending the group someday - know that I will never have expectations of you. Clearly - I have no right - as I can't even call the right number! I WILL, however, always be early, set up and ready with tissues and chocolate.
But, please, come to the Springfield HEATH AND REHABILITATION CENTER at 105 Chester Rd. for I WILL NOT be at the HCRS building - again- looking sheepishly at a phone book where a four letter word, or lack there of, sent me uptown when I should have been down.
Monday, January 12, 2009
- I organized the library in my room in alphabetical order at 9 years old. Then created a pre-excel spreadsheet just in case you decided to check one out.
- I was the kid all other kids nominated to do stuff (probably because they didn't want to do it themselves - but hey, I got a reputation)
- I made my own Babysitter's Club Activity Travel Box. (ok maybe that is more nerdy than leadership)
- I attended the Governer's Institute over the Summer!
- I was the chosen state delegate for HOBY - (Hugh O'Brian's Youth Leadership Foundation) [Remember Wyatt Earp?]
- Ect., ect., ect.
This not an excerpt from my resume, well at least not my current one, but a way to demonstrate that I have never feared leadership roles. I embraced them.
But tonight I am nervous. 48 hours from now I will be sitting in a room with other bereaved mothers facilitating a communication session that is supposed to make them feel like they accomplished something by coming. The optimal result is someone walking out the door thinking, This is something I am going to do for myself every month because I need to - because it feels good to sit with other people who know this kind of pain.
I read the guidbook. I copy and organize papers - packet for new participants, website information and literary resources. But, no amout of preparedness or strong-arming leadership will gain me that result.
It is time to have faith in the process, yet again. It is time to accept that whatever happens in that room, I can handle it.
A few words of encouragement wouldn't be discouraged. And, if you feel like feeding the "need-to-control" beast and have attended a Share meeting before, comment with your advice on what worked for you, what didn't, and what you always hoped to see in the future.
In grief and love (and faith!)
Friday, January 9, 2009
To the blogoshpere at large...a question:
As a chapter of Share National 5% of our annual fundraising efforts are donated back to the National office.
We, SSV, would like to match that donation and give it to a miscarriage and/or stillbirth research foundation that is actively working to solve some of the mysteries surrounding why and how we lose our babies.
Do you know of any good ones???
PLEASE Comment with the name of the foundation and how you found out about them.